Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Responsible Atheism

When I first declared myself an atheist and rejected the probability of the existence of God I was what you would call an angry atheist. In those days 19 years ago I would visit theist forums and chat rooms to pick fights and incite the ire of the Christians. I would feel some mean sort of satisfaction when I was able to piss them off and have them lose it and end up cursing me out. I would taunt them about showing the love of Jesus, loving their enemies, and blessing those that cursed them.

Through the years I began to lose my feelings of anger towards God who at the time I did not realize was an irrational anger, since I myself had declared that he did not exist. How can one be angry at a non-existent being? Upon realizing this I began to delve deeper into finding an outlet where I could express my non-beliefs freely as Christians do with their own and opposite beliefs. I began visiting atheist forums where I began debating theists. I found this very satisfying and it helped me better understand my own ideas on the subject.

After a few years of debating theists on forums I was able to obtain a sort of calm when discussing issues with theists. I found that although at times they managed to frustrate me to no end I had to learn patience. Today I am a different kind of atheist in that having been a theists and an evangelist; I have been on both sides of the fence. This gives me the ability to discuss theological concepts both from my own experiences as an evangelist and understand how theists think and why they think what they do. I've pretty much seen and heard just about every possible theistic argument or defense for God etc. and have been there myself and done that so nothing really surprises me.

Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree and let things go when you are discussing issues with theists. Just like you have a right to express your ideas and beliefs they too have and posses those same rights. Every once in a while I will make a flippant comment or agree to some other atheist comment but for the most part I try to keep a lid on it. I am not here to try and convert anyone to atheism since if I was, it would once again just be an illogical idea; since I have nothing to convert anyone to.

The only time I take offense to theism is when they try to foist their beliefs on me and make silly comments about how I did not really know nor have a relationship with God/Jesus. I take comments like that very seriously and I must admit that it sometimes upsets me. I think I gave God or as I like to say now the concept of God a fair shake. I preached every weekend on the streets, in local churches, and seriously tried to walk the walk. I lived what I preached to the fullest and gave God my all which included fasts, fervent prayer, visiting the sick, praying for strangers, and I believed that I was baptized and filled with the Holy Spirit.

My embracing the concept of atheism was a six year long project that was scary, and painful at times. It took a lot to "get the God out of me." The fear of hell was very real and when I least expected it it would creep back up in the back of my mind. Finding myself was a long and winding road filled with many twists and turns and at times dead ends.

I've grown leaps and bounds as an atheist since those early days, and most of all I have matured as a person greatly. I am happy with my life as it is and do not feel the need to worship a god or follow some form of religion. My life in and of itself is fulfilling and satisfying and I will continue to live and educate myself regarding theism and atheism. Most importantly I will share what I learn through this blog or my hub page where I can at least help new atheists or agnostics deal with their doubts and fears regarding their recent separation from enslavement to religion.

To all my fellow atheists; give yourself a chance to grow and mature and be responsible for what comes out of your mouth and how you treat theists or others who disagree with you.Calling each other names gets you nowhere and leads to nothing but frustration and unnecessary stress. Learn from everyone and educate yourself so that you can provide rational arguments for what you believe or in this case don't believe. Be professional and courteous and remember that all you are doing is having a discussion. Sometimes like I stated earlier you just have to know when to fold the cards and agree to disagree.Even if it means that the theist thinks that they have won the argument. Get that idea about winning and losing out of your mind and keep it friendly.

In conclusion, be responsible atheist and represent your ideas and beliefs with dignity. As atheists we have nothing to be ashamed of. Remember that we are free to think and speak our minds on certain issues; and that in doing so we also teach others and learn from one another. Take responsibility for your actions and words and live life to the fullest, living and loving every moment that we are allowed on this earth. Life is short and a little longer for some, but enjoy it while it lasts and hold your head up high. Nothing is more fulfilling for me than being able to think for myself and doing the things I enjoy most. Good luck to all and I will see you in the comments and in my next post.


  1. Amen! Er, um, well, you know what I mean. ;)

    Love ya,

  2. I have long ago given up on debating w/fundie nutters. To praphrase Thomas Paine: "Trying to reason with a man who has abandoned his reason, is like giving medicine to a dead man."

    1. I know what you mean Hump! My favorite quote comes from Adolf Hitler: "It is always more difficult to fight against faith than against knowledge."


  3. you can thank RANDI




    which WORLD-VIEW will not exist, sh*thead?


    5000 whining atheists vs the Great Prophet

    how the divine pen of Michel N. crushed the international atheist movement



    one applicant right here...

    get the POINT, Randi....

    for lies on top of lies


    do you think you can threaten my right to FREE SPEECH?

    what if I told you that I am not who you think I am….

    Not Dennis Markuze - but a FAN!


    you're not the center of the universe!


    a dishonest liar






    you can thank RANDI



  4. Chatpilot.

    I'm glad that you are at ease with yourself these days.
    Christian or Atheist, people should be free to speak on any topic as long as they do it with respect for the other person and avoid using disparaging or slanderous language.
    Your story is interesting and I can't help but wonder about the experience of your religion that left you so angry.
    As for favourite quotes, mine is from the first letter of John[4:8]:

    “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”

    In John's words love is not a characteristic of God. It is a definition.

    Is Love a myth?

    I don't think you'll find many that agree.



    1. Love is not a myth; it is a human emotion and a very personal and subjective experience. Based on human experience you can't define love with God since everything he does is so contradictory to what our interpretation of love is. If you love someone you don't force them into obedience or to submit their will to yours; that is not love it is control through the use of fear tactics. The biblical God demands our adoration or else!

      When it comes to what made me so angry about religion all I can say is that I felt that I wasted my time living and believing a lie. I sacrificed many things personally and gave up so many opportunities for my God and my church. I got nothing back but more confusion and delusions to believe and follow. I am no longer an angry atheist, but I can never go back to worshiping the biblical monster now that I see what a tyrannical and possessive beast he is. That is if he existed, which I seriously doubt he does. Even if he did exist I would reject him.

  5. "God is Love"...really? I wonder which god that would be?
    the god that wipes out almost an entire planet's population and species, that endorses genocide, that punishes his creations for ever for seeking knowledge like he knew they would? The god that turns people into salt pillars, that tests people with murdering their own child, that kills itself/its son to placate itself so it doesn't have to send its beloved creations to a place of horror he created just for them for failing to believe, like he knew they would from the start?

    This insipid "god is love" phrase is a pure invention by religionist zombies to justify why they embrace a hideous murderous genocidal pathological myth being that they have been taught to "fear".

    When fear is transformed into love it is the quintessential definition of the "Stockholm Syndrome." And they are too deluded to even understand it. All they have left is their weak mindedness, self imposed stupidity, platitudinous phrases and their need to defend them.

    1. Thanks for your comment on this issue Hump. I am in complete agreement with your assessment of the theists mentality. The fear of God is an irrational phobia that should be listed as one of many mental illnesses.